Category Archives: Parenthood

Ten Minute Catch-Up

Basically, I want to write a post but I have other things to do tonight.

Also, I lost some time to the fact that our treadmill is broken. The maintenance people came out last week to do its annual maintenance and they must have neglected to hook up some part of the computer or something because the incline works, but the belt will not run. How incensing.

So that left me scrambling for a workout to do in the basement. Marcus distinguished himself and quickly hooked up the DVD player but then we could not find the DVDs. Foiled again.

Thankfully I remembered that Laura shared some of her favorite 20 minute POPSUGAR videos here. I did this one. It was exhausting, I have no core strength.

I am pretty much winning in the competition to be The World’s Most Okayest Mom.

We are signed up for another round of tball, soccer (these sports each last 6 weeks) and an art class.

Also, Critter has to bring his lunch to school this week (which we have not done all year) and I will note the following: we do not own a lunchbox of any kind so I sent him with a personal sized Coleman cooler, I also packed five baby carrot sticks that I knew he would not eat so that the teachers would know I am a good mom.

And with that, good night.

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Mom Life Updates.

I have children, did you know?

Where has the time gone? Critter has a memory for EVENTS now. The other day, he told my mom the sex of a friend’s baby on the way when I mentioned our playdate to her. He loves when I retell what, exactly, we saw when we visited the zoo a few weeks ago.

He had another haircut last weekend and even though Marcus took him, he makes me recall (repeatedly) the events that took place at the salon – sitting in the special chair, wearing the smock, having his hair sprayed down, the whole thing. And after the 45 second tale concludes WE TELL IT AGAIN.

He is three weeks into toddler t-ball through our local parks and rec program that we signed up for with some friends from ECFE. I would say mostly he just runs around the field but he achieves at least one thing each week – participating in a drill, running all of the bases instead of running off, and frankly the fact that we can just go somewhere contained where he can RUN for 30 minutes is great for me. We will sign him up for more toddler t-ball this summer as well because I am a believer in recreational youth sports and it will give him something “different” to do once per week.

His language is really just off the charts at this point. He can tell us exactly what he wants and hit a seven word sentence which was mostly really scary. He has also started intentionally mangling some words which is precious. Examples: catty (cat+kitty), triangle-trangles, jajamas.

And honestly the thing that I adore the most is how when we are in the car or before he naps, sometimes he’ll sigh and say “good boy.” He is the best boy.

Glitter is in 12 month clothing.

She persists in being the sweetest lady and charming to all people.

Sleeping continues to organize itself. Most nights by the time it is bedtime I lay her in her crib and she just…goes to bed. She wakes up once per night which is fine.

She is going to crawl soon. She can rotate her body and go backwards but when she gets onto her hands and knees she is just not organized enough to move forward. This is terrifying.

Critter continues to be her favorite person in the whole world. She is always the happiest to see him.

Snow Days and Some Other Things

Just consider the photo above a reminder that camouflage SPANX leggings have improved my life in every way since I obtained them. And with that, back to our regularly scheduled programming.

This is the winter where I wish my children were just a little bit older so that they could really PLAY in the snow that has been dumped on us since January. Generally it has not been problematic except for the storm we got a few weeks ago where the entire state shut down at noon, and the storm that started building on Sunday night leading schools to cancel on Monday. Subsequently there was No Snow until late afternoon which meant a delayed start today for kids because you know, it was still snowing. I know our littles are not yet in actual school but daycare was cancelled on Monday and ECFE was cancelled today so we are just REALLY off of our schedule.

I will not complain about the chance to spend more time with the littles but based on the number of time outs I had to give Critter this AM (he was throwing toys, this is an automatic time out, now you know more about my parenting style), he would really like to be back with his little friends and observing some semblance of a normal routine tomorrow.

Otherwise, some other thoughts and updates I cannot organize into a full post for whatever reason.

I am still exercising at least three times per week. I’ve done a better job in the last two weeks of organizing my evenings so that on workout nights I don’t also have to fold laundry or mend clothing (okay so I actually did that tonight AND I walked but there was no choice). This allows me some post-workout time to just sit down and unwind.

I’ve also found that doing one AM workout on the weekend makes it so much easier for me to fit in two more workouts throughout the week without having to stress.

Exhibit A: Barre Class on Sunday morning. I have seven more classes to work through in the next two months before they expire and once I have used them all, I’ll try to decide what, exactly, I see happening this spring/summer. Like, maybe a walk by myself in the morning? Maybe more classes? The weekend AM workouts are just as much about having some time all to myself as much as they are about…the fitness.

This is a hair tie.

I received a four pack of them at a favorite things party and was SUPER suspicious. Those elastic-y no dent hair ties do not hold my hair up and they leave a dent. These? Hold my hair up (like, all day with kids) AND THEY DON’T LEAVE A DENT. RUN, DO NOT WALK PEOPLE.

And with that, my very early Cool Mom bedtime calls.

Post-Partum Anxiety!

I love writing for the outlet it gives. However, the most important thing I have learned is that if through my story I am able to help even one friend or stranger to feel less alone, or do something that will change their life for the better (i.e. go see the dermatologist and get a scary mole removed, seek help for post-partum mood disorders, start using a budget!) then all of this has been worth it.

SO. Here we are.

Since September, I have had another baby, returned to work. Seen friends get married. Celebrated babies on the way. Mourned with friends who have lost babies. Attended three funerals, the most recent being the death of Marcus’ 91 year old grandfather. I try to be very honest here and portray my life accurately but there are just some stories that are not mine to tell. Like a lot of stories actually.

Anyway. About three weeks ago I started experiencing some occasional shortness of breath. By last Monday, I was like…having to strain to breathe all day. I went to urgent care after work and they told me I had post-partum asthma. Weird, but apparently a thing that can flare up if you had asthma in the past. They sent me home with an inhaler that I took regularly for the next two days and did not do a damn thing. So I went back to urgent care on Wednesday. They of course ran tests to be sure I did not have a blood clot or post-partum heart failure (which is actually the first thing that pops up when you Google post-partum breathlessness hello scary af). After these came back negative (praise hands) the doctor turned to me and asked, Do you feel anxious?

Me: EVERYTHING IS COMPLETELY FINE I DO NOT FEEL ANXIOUS AT ALL. (Seriously, I did not “feel” anxious in the way that I normally do.)

Her: Try taking a Xanax anyway. You have a lot going on in your life right now and shortness of breath is a very common symptom of anxiety.

Y’all I was super skeptical but then I took that pill and yes, yes it was anxiety because I could breathe again. I didn’t have a clue about how tight/tense my chest was until it relaxed. Also taking this in the evening for a few days helped me to get “back on track.” Obviously this works differently for everyone, but for me, if it recurs or worsens, I will need to go back to the doctor to find a more appropriate regular medication. For the here and now, I know I need to be using the coping techniques I have practiced in the past and that I need to take a step back from…everything.

Sometimes you see this stuff coming, sometimes you don’t. As some of you may know, I experienced this after Critter was born and since I wasn’t having the same symptoms this time around I just thought everything was fine.

I wasn’t but I am glad to be on the way back to fine now.

All of this is to say if you’re reading this right now and you do not feel fine, you are not alone. For the rest of the group, thank you for coming along for the ride.

4 months!

Like, this happened over a week ago but better late than never, right?

Our little lady is four months old. She is 14 pounds 3 ounces and she is 26 inches tall. So she is the tallest that she can possibly be! She is probably going to move into size 12M in the next week or two because her feet are getting too big for her footie jams!

And now she rolls from her back onto her tummy! All the time! She cannot be stopped!

Glitter laughs.

When I show her toys, she reaches both hands forward for them. She loves reading chewing on her books.

We started sleep training at night. Now she goes down easily at bedtime. I’d say 50% of the time she has no problem going back to sleep when she wakes and the other 50% are a challenge when you add in her newfound ability to roll over! It doesn’t matter, we don’t mind. Last night she slept through the whole entire night so that was a reminder that it all WILL get better.

She cannot stop watching Critter when he is around. Everything that he is doing she wants to observe. And she is still just the happiest, most easy going girl. We could not love her more.

2!

Oh man, you are such a delight.  When you are asked how old you are, you hold out your whole hand and say “2!”

You can say four words in a row to express an idea.  You can say words with four syllables.  You like to “read” your books and point out the exclamation points and question marks and periods.  Even though you don’t know words yet, you can point out letters and you know which book is which so when you are “reading” Brown Bear, Brown Bear What Do You See? you tell us that story instead of Good Night Moon or Freight Train.

You can count to 10 in English and Hebrew.  You can sing the alphabet in English and Hebrew.  You know your colors.

You love your “animals” (loveys). You ask for help. Yesterday you proudly proclaimed “all by myself!” for the first time.

You are still a fairly impartial big brother, but ongoing you continue to become more and more interested in Glitter and she adores you.  If you are in the same room she would rather watch you than do anything else.

It is impossible to believe two years have gone by since you were born. This has truly been the longest shortest time.

You are my favorite only son, the nicest boy, my best creation.

Happy birthday.

Sunday Vibes

(But seriously what are those?)

How I imagine my life looks.

How it actually looks.

This weekend had a whole lot going on. But first let’s rewind to Thursday.

I took both of the children to the pediatrician for their well child visits (at the same time!) where I was informed they both had double ear infections (though Critter’s was on the way out). MOM OF THE YEAR RIGHT HERE.

On Friday a friend informed me their child had the flu. Which transported me back to our time together at library storytime the day before where this little one had HUGGED Glitter. So she is on Tamiflu now too!

Anyway, no one has gotten sick (or sicker) so thanks be to God for those mercies.

On Saturday my playgroup had a moms’ day/night that was so needed. I ate a lot of carbs, we workshopped preventative botox and there was of course, wine.

Today, we went on a day-date with Glitter (Critter napped at the grandparents’ house) to Omni Brewing. Which ironically is owned by some friends but they opened it when I was pregnant the first time so this is the first time I got to drink their beer!

(And we got Culver’s because you bring your own food to these places and today I REALLY needed a cheeseburger. Like I finished it and thought I SHOULD HAVE ORDERED TWO.)

Last week we did the same and visited the Fulton Taproom. So it has been nice to go out together and act like normal adults.

All in all, it was a pretty great weekend. 🙂