Newly minted moms are either underwhelmed by their gifts/celebration or exhausted because they are driving their tiny, non-napping children all over town to celebrate with others.
Some are mourning the loss of their mothers.
Others are mourning the loss of children, both those they held and those they never got to hold.
This is all super-valid stuff, but Sunday is still coming for us and it’s a Hallmark holiday so there is no escape.
I will say the following.
(1) My first mother’s day was actually not that awesome and something I nearly forgot about until I was trying to remember what we did last year. For those wondering, we drove to brunch 30 minutes across town where I got to breastfeed in public for the first time (was not really super psyched about that) and because the drive and brunch were so long, it killed my non-sleeping baby’s nap schedule. This is to say nothing of a very tired me. My husband left halfway through brunch to go to a friend’s grandmother’s funeral.
IT WAS NOT OUR BEST SHOWING AND IT WAS NOT SPECIAL FOR ME.
So this year is a do-over.
(2) I have been encouraging all of my girlfriends to launch a pre-emptive strike on mother’s day and either (a) make plans they want and just do them (b) plan an alternative mother’s day for themselves where they can actually enjoy stuff.
Like, for example, Lis and I are going out for brunch on the 13th. In peace. Where? We don’t know. But it’s gonna be great.
If you are reading this and thinking hey, that is me (mom or not!) please save yourself and make a plan.
(3) Coffee and Crumbs has a great podcast episode on Mother’s Day. It is here.
(4) I hosted a baby shower last weekend and after writing this in the new mama’s card, I had to commemorate it for myself because it is just the truth:
I don’t really know what to tell you about motherhood – it’s an adventure, none of us know what we’re doing, there is a lot of crying, the smart mamas drink a lot of coffee and wear a lot of concealer, the days are long but the years are short, somehow all of our moms survived this, you are the best and right mama for your daughter. Knowing what I know now, I’d do it again in a heartbeat.
This is the life.