Category Archives: Family

Putting my feet up.

Honestly I just want to write right now so I can remember this feeling.

This weekend, for the first time since Critter was born, the holidays were…nice. Like, they were not easy and I spent a decent part of the Saturday and Sunday mornings feeling rushed, like I was doing a terrible job of paying attention to my family, and like I was scrambling just to keep up.

But when all was said and done, as soon as we were sitting down with our family at our Passover Seders and Easter Celebrations, everything came together. We got to relax. The children were festive. They survived the dreaded sleep ritual of going to bed at one place, getting transferred to the car to go home and being put back to bed in their cribs at home. To Glitter’s credit, she even slept through the night both nights after all of these shenanigans.

My brother came into town, which was wonderful. Hilariously the Easter Bunny brought Critter a wallet. He has been coveting Marcus’ and now he has his own complete with his own monies ($2)! He loves to carry it around and open and close it and God two year olds are just hysterical.

This is the dream, right?

To close out the weekend, a bizarre spirit of productivity took hold of me. I purged a garbage bag worth of old clothes from my closet, I cleaned the master bathroom, folded my laundry, re-did my pedicure, did a workout video, dealt with a bag of blankets and bedding that had been sitting at the end of our bed SINCE WE MOVED IN JULY.

I don’t know either. It all made sense at the time and while I was doing each of these things it was like time stopped or something so I just went with it.

Now, I’ve taken a moment to put my feet up.

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Snow Days and Some Other Things

Just consider the photo above a reminder that camouflage SPANX leggings have improved my life in every way since I obtained them. And with that, back to our regularly scheduled programming.

This is the winter where I wish my children were just a little bit older so that they could really PLAY in the snow that has been dumped on us since January. Generally it has not been problematic except for the storm we got a few weeks ago where the entire state shut down at noon, and the storm that started building on Sunday night leading schools to cancel on Monday. Subsequently there was No Snow until late afternoon which meant a delayed start today for kids because you know, it was still snowing. I know our littles are not yet in actual school but daycare was cancelled on Monday and ECFE was cancelled today so we are just REALLY off of our schedule.

I will not complain about the chance to spend more time with the littles but based on the number of time outs I had to give Critter this AM (he was throwing toys, this is an automatic time out, now you know more about my parenting style), he would really like to be back with his little friends and observing some semblance of a normal routine tomorrow.

Otherwise, some other thoughts and updates I cannot organize into a full post for whatever reason.

I am still exercising at least three times per week. I’ve done a better job in the last two weeks of organizing my evenings so that on workout nights I don’t also have to fold laundry or mend clothing (okay so I actually did that tonight AND I walked but there was no choice). This allows me some post-workout time to just sit down and unwind.

I’ve also found that doing one AM workout on the weekend makes it so much easier for me to fit in two more workouts throughout the week without having to stress.

Exhibit A: Barre Class on Sunday morning. I have seven more classes to work through in the next two months before they expire and once I have used them all, I’ll try to decide what, exactly, I see happening this spring/summer. Like, maybe a walk by myself in the morning? Maybe more classes? The weekend AM workouts are just as much about having some time all to myself as much as they are about…the fitness.

This is a hair tie.

I received a four pack of them at a favorite things party and was SUPER suspicious. Those elastic-y no dent hair ties do not hold my hair up and they leave a dent. These? Hold my hair up (like, all day with kids) AND THEY DON’T LEAVE A DENT. RUN, DO NOT WALK PEOPLE.

And with that, my very early Cool Mom bedtime calls.

The Holiday Card I Didn’t Send This Year

Well, to be honest, we have yet to ever send a holiday card.  This was not going to be the year I started in on this tradition even though our mailbox has been stuffed with gorgeous cards and little life updates from friends and family everywhere.  Nor was I able to hang them all up because we are still a household in transition, with most of it Not Decorated, which is fine, but I simply don’t have a place to put them at the moment.

If I were to have sent a card, it would have gone something like this.

Hello dearest friends and family,

If you were with us right now, you would be marveling at the constant stream of cars driving down (and parking on) our street to watch the Christmas light show that of course, our house is a part of.  Yes we knew about this before we wrote the offer for the house, no we were not thinking about how many party buses and limousines would be cruising down our street between 5:00 PM – 10:00 PM each night in the month of December, most certainly we were not thinking about how this light show would be covered by most a number of area news outlets.  It is really something to behold.

This year, Critter turned one, Glitter was born, we sold our townhouse, moved in with my parents, and then moved into our “forever home” exactly two months prior to Glitter’s arrival.  Marcus got a new job.  I kept my same job.

Our card is a letter and not a picture because honestly, I don’t think there is a picture of the four of us in existence, though we are planning to remedy this in late January.  It’s good to have goals.

Who can know what will come in 2018?  Actually we do!  We plan to have one frisky toddler, one teething baby (but seriously when will the teething end?), and still no pets.  We hope to each return to one hobby of the many that have fallen by the wayside since having children.  We plan to survive exactly one trip to the cabin with our children and take exactly one trip without them.  We’re looking forward to it already.

Wishing you and yours a blessed 2018,

Marcus and Kat

Things I am Thankful For: Part I

My house is full.

I have spent the last eight weeks with a happy heart because my house is full. Which is not to say there isn’t at least one point each day where both children are crying, because there is. On one recent day, both of them pooped within five minutes of one another and then Critter sacrificed a Tupperware bowl to the sink, which he Mourned Intensely for 10 minutes.

But Glitter is here. Critter is here. Marcus is here. I am here.

We are all here.

When people ask me how I am doing it with two I usually give some sort of bland answer about just putting one foot in front of the other which is partially true and the other half is that I just have no idea how we survive each day but somehow we do.

This is the hardest it will ever be, I continue to tell myself.

They are days full of More Crying Than I Would Prefer (from my children) but they are also days of wrestling and roaring like lions and running from the hugglesaurus, reading books, singing songs, a newborn who naps on me.

They are days when my husband and I sometimes spend one hour together at the end of the day, but usually not. It is exciting if we get to eat a reheated dinner together. We are tired. We are happy. We are sometimes frustrated. We are always surprised that we have two children now because how on Earth did that happen.

We are glad.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Fundraising for Brain Tumor Research

No, friends, I have not been hacked.  However, as we are still adjusting to Glitter’s arrival into our family this will lack the narrative flair I am usually given to but please read on. 

Very long story short: my friend M (since this is getting blasted across the internet, I’m trying to give him some privacy) discovered he had a brain tumor in 2013. I remember visiting him that weekend in the hospital and as I wheeled him up and dowm some of the halls, to the cafeteria and back, I remember thinking This Shit Makes Absolutely No Sense, We Are 26 Years Old. 

His cancer went into remission. 

In January of this year they discovered tumor regrowth during a scan.  Four months before his wedding day.  Currently he is undergoing chemotherapy. 

I have known M for more than half of my life. He is one of the best people I know, he is one of my oldest friends.  So if somehow, at 30 we now need to walk for brain tumor research and awareness, I am there. If we need to fundraise for that (and I will be honest, I made a vow a long time ago as a runner to not fundraise on my own, but to give generously to my many friends who do), I will ask you all to give. 

The page is HERE. (I’ll be honest, I didn’t jazz it up because the whole story is here).

Some items: when the walk happens, I will not even be three weeks post-partum. Physically I cannot walk a 5k right now. If I can walk a mile with Glitter that will be great. With that in mind, since I have a newborn, all walking is weather dependent. However, our whole family is registered as are my parents. At a minimum some combination of us will be walking. 

Anyway, if you have it in you to give $5 or even $10, I know we’ll all appreciate it. 

She is here!


At 8:51 PM on Monday night, Glitter arrived. We have a daughter and she is  8 pounds 9 ounces and 22 inches long.

Our world is forever changed again. 

The (Longest) Weekend

So.  My last day of work before Glitter arrives was last Wednesday.  That is because Rosh Hashanah started that evening and ended on Friday.  I was obviously hoping to have a baby by now, but I don’t and realistically where we are at right now she is coming this week.  What would have been an ordinarily long four-day weekend is now part of a longer lead-up into my maternity leave.

By Friday, we felt like it was Sunday and now that it is actual Sunday night, I am sort of in disbelief that tomorrow is actually Monday.

Like the last two weekends, we didn’t make any formal plans for this one because we didn’t know what our life was going to look like.  Unlike the other two weekends, we knew that this one would be the last as a family of three.  So we did our favorite weekend things.  Sprinkled throughout with one toddler who had his first daycare cold (which happened two weeks later than we thought it would!) and was on some sort of hunger strike that resulted in one trip to urgent care five minutes before closing.  This is real life!


On Saturday morning, we went to Bellecour’s bakery to pick up some treats and then walked down to Wayzata Beach where Critter played on the playground, spied on the people walking their dogs, and ran back and forth over the marina bridge.

And, on Sunday morning, we took him to the Minneapolis Farmer’s Market, where I got flowers, Marcus got his Tollefson breakfast brat, and Critter and I split an order of egg rolls (his fave).


Baube took Critter for a good chunk of the day on Sunday, so we got to go on a lunch date and nap.

We formally introduced Critter to TV and his delight in the Netflix show Spirit (it’s about a horse) was so beyond what I could have imagined, that my only regret is that we didn’t do it sooner.  He spent half of the episode cuddling, wide-eyed and in awe of the fact that horses were galloping in our family room and the other half loudly neighing at the TV.  I know that this is a phase that will pass, but it was too cute for words, really.

It was A Nice Weekend.