Just the other day, as I was opening up a stack of Christmas cards (which I will confess, we are the worst friends because we never send any), I tore open a card that felt like a postcard and a little deck of cards stacked on top of it. I sort of laughed as I was pulling out the cards because the shape reminded me of the senior photos that we all used to exchange, back in high school. They were like baseball trading cards. But of ourselves. Right?
This was not a trading card. Instead I pulled out this message from my sweet friend Katie, who I have known since our summers at day camp in the Girl Scouts. We pole vaulted together in high school (poorly!) and were sorority sisters from the same pledge class in college. We have shared life together.
I’m blogging about her and Nathan today because as much as this is a place where I write about saving money or cooking dinner or what leggings I’m wearing or The Cabin, every once in a while I get the chance to help maybe possibly do some Good.
Just as Katie wrote in her note above, most adoptions are made through word of mouth and this is one big bulletin board. When I told her I would absolutely spread the word, I asked her if she would be able to share some things about her and her husband and their lives together from their adoption profile. I told her I knew it was such a personal question to ask, but also, I don’t know who will see this or where this post might possibly end up.
As I read Katie’s words for the first time, I thought These Are Sacred. They are Sacred because they are the words of a mother and a father who are waiting, hopefully and patiently for their little one. They are the words of a mother and a father who are reaching into the unknown for the people who will change their lives forever. They are words of a mother and father to someone whose life has changed forever. This Is Sacred Work. Katie says:
We both grew up in Minnesota and actually went to the University of MN though at slightly different times. We met while watching a MN Vikings game and have been together ever since. We got married in September of 2015 surrounded by many family and friends. We actually had a friend perform our ceremony and designed the whole thing ourselves. We bought a house and moved in just a month before our wedding. Our house is in NE Minneapolis, which is a GREAT part of the city. We absolutely LOVE living in Minnesota and feel that it is the best place to raise a family. The cultural activities and community involvement opportunities are unmatched to anywhere else in the country.
Nathan works at AT&T as a customer service/IT representative. He has been with the company for 10 years. Katie works as a director of therapy at a long-term care and transitional care facility. She got her master’s degree in Occupational Therapy.
Things that we love to do include watching sporting events both on TV and live, traveling, spending time with friends and our pets. Our typical week days include work (of course) then home to walk our two dogs. If we don’t have any plans that night we will make dinner and perhaps watch a movie or one of our favorite shows. If there is a sporting event, we may watch that with friends. During certain times of the year we are in a weekly bowling or broomball league. We may also have dinner with Katie’s parents and brother who live in town. Nathan’s parents and sister live about an hour away. Weekends usually consist of seeing our friends and family, spending time with our pets, getting some housework done and relaxing.
And finally, Katie felt it important to share their letter to the birthmother:
Thank you for considering us for your adoption choice. We are Nathan and Katie and we are very excited to start a journey with someone that will last a lifetime. Though we do not know you yet and cannot know your specific circumstances, we know that you are already a very caring and brave person by making this choice. We understand that the choice you are making has not been made without a lot of thought. From what we have learned so far, adoption has changed so much over the years. We both feel it is important to have a great relationship with birth mom, if she wants one. We have struggled with infertility and want very much be able to raise a child. We believe that we will be excellent parents who will be able to give a child a very loving, active, and educational life. We would love to speak to you about what you are looking for in adoptive parents and if we can create a lifetime relationship.
Thank you again!
Nathan and Katie
If you can share this or know who to share this with, or if maybe you are someone who wants to know more about Nathan and Katie, please contact them at firstname.lastname@example.org. I know they would love to hear from you. If you don’t know who to share this with, there are of course some people we can lift up in prayer (or positive thinking) during this season of their lives: Nathan, Katie, the birthmother, and this precious son or daughter they hope to meet someday soon. All of it is Sacred Work.