At some point in the last year, Madelyn informed me that motherhood changes you because you are now connected to all mothers. You are all sharing in the same struggle. I didn’t truly understand what she was saying at the time but of course, now I do.
I was honestly so blown away by what everyone else wished they had known when I wrote my first post about the stuff I wished I had known. Because I wished I had known that stuff too. Sisters, you are not alone. Keep carrying each other. And enjoy some more wisdom from our tribe.
- People always frame the period of time after you had a baby to getting “back to normal”, whether it be life or your routine or your body shape, etc. Well, I don’t want life to be “back to normal” and that’s not even something that’s attainable. I have a tiny person that was added to my family and I am creating a new “normal”. I put a lot of stress on myself to get back to normal, and I wish I would have been able to re-frame that for myself sooner. (Madelyn)
- You won’t break your baby! They are resilient! (Madelyn)
- Sleep brings more sleep, but it’s also not the hill to die on. They’ll damn well sleep when they want and stay awake when they want. (Madelyn)
- Babies cry. And sometimes you can’t fix it. This is not a reflection of your worth and skill as a mother. (Nina)
- A single smile at the end of a long, fussy day will make you immeasurably grateful. (Nina)
- That my new mom group would be my lifesaver and help me realize that what I was going through was normal. (Christine)
- How to limit visitors during those first few weeks in order to get the sleep I needed. (Christine)
- How important the “get out of the house once a day” rule would be for my mental health. (Christine)
- You might not have an immediate connection with your baby and that’s okay… You will eventually. (Christine)
- While I was pining for him to gain more independence from me, that I would mourn the days of him being so dependent. (Kirsten)
- How much my identity would change. (Claire)
- I hadn’t internalized that I would always be “on,” even when I’m off. I mean, I am a mom 100% of the time. Not 95% less a Friday night I want to go out. The consistency of the responsibly hit hard. (Kari)
- When fighting diaper rash, use a blow dryer to make sure the bum is dry! (Barb)