#reverb12 is a prompt-a-day series for the month of December that is meant to give us all the chance to reflect on 2012 and the opportunity to write down our hopes and dreams for the coming year. Through December 31st Meredith, Sarah and I will be posting each day with a new prompt. Join us by writing, or join us by reading. No matter what you choose, come with us.
Crap: What was just absolute rubbish for you this year? What would you do to change that? Describe something, or some moment, that was just hopelessly awful, and tell us how it could (or could not) be made better.
Father Marven, a cousin who followed His Calling to become a man of the cloth once said, God doesn’t create junk.
Just take a minute to let that one marinate.
God doesn’t create junk.
So sage, Father Marven was.
What was rubbish this year? Nothing.
There is a clear difference between challenging or less-than-ideal situations and finding yourself in a hellstorm. The former you will work through. The latter is impossible to escape.
So I intentionally went out of my way to avoid shiteous situations (my mother would give me an 11/10 at pain avoidance) and I intentionally worked to save others from walking into those same traps.
Because generally speaking, life is not a snare in the woods waiting to be tripped. It’s not a game that has been rigged against us.
Yes, some parts are hard and hurtful and really confusing. But unlike your appendix, your pain reflex is something that has to be used.
We do not get a say in that.
There is a lot to be said for doing unto others as you would have done unto you.
There’s also a lot to be said for ending each day with a life that you’re proud to call yours whether you sailed through it with a tailwind or you had to resort to tooth and nail-style fighting just to survive.
So whether you’re riding the crest of a wave or fighting like hell today, own the things you can. Take control of what you are able.
And as for the crap? Know what is worth the salvage job, and walk away from the things that beg to be left behind.