#reverb12 is a prompt-a-day series for the month of December that is meant to give us all the chance to reflect on 2012 and the opportunity to write down our hopes and dreams for the coming year. Through December 31st Meredith, Sarah and I will be posting each day with a new prompt. Join us by writing, or join us by reading. No matter what you choose, come with us.
Friendship: What was it like for you to be a friend to others this year? Did you rekindle an old friendship? Strengthen a current friendship? Make friends with someone you didn’t think was “your type?”
There are books dedicated to the plight of making friends as an adult (MWF seeking BFF) and whole articles in The New York Times about the issue.
I am going to be totally honest with you, I do not get it.
You are the person who gets to decide how big your tent is.
If you see me out in the wild, I am the picture of liveliness and engagement. I plan, I organize, I clink glasses, I show up.
Deep inside, I am an introvert. I am better at listening than I am at telling, I am vastly more comfortable with the familiar than I am with the unknown.
Over the past year, I made a conscious decision to say Yes. To people. To plans. To Things. To escaping my comfort zone.
And with every Yes, another woman joined the circle. Some who are near, some who I have yet to meet in person, some who I feel like I have known for years.
Today, I celebrated the First Annual Winesday-MN Cookie Exchange with a wonderful slew of girlfriends who have all literally dropped out of the sky and into my lap over the past 12 – 18 months.
We sipped champagne, swapped stories, and subsisted exclusively on cheese and cookies.
Once upon a time, it absolutely would have been easier for me to say, No. I’m too busy. You’re strangers. Who said I need friends?
But instead, I said yes.
Because you are the person who gets to decide how big your tent is.
And if these people aren’t under my tent, then I don’t want to be there either.