Daily Archives: 12.12.2011

Reverb 11 | Prompt 12 | Future Self

Some of my absolute favorite ladies Sarah and her partner-in-crime, Meredith are leading a December blog series called Reverb.  I can’t explain it nearly so well as she does except to say that it involves reflecting on the life you’ve lead over the past year.  The highs, the lows, the changes and your hopes for the year to come.  I told her I would love to join in for a post or two when the prompt felt right.

Prompt for December 12: Future self.  Write a letter to your future self, telling the future you about what you hope for you.

Future Kat,

There’s so much to say and not nearly enough time or space.  So the only thing that I can hope for is that what I share with you today is enough.  That when you look back on this someday, it will make sense.  That it will be the right thing at the right time.

Remember to choose joy.  You are an extraordinarily optimistic person.  But there are a lot of people in your life who don’t see the world in that same glass half-full sort of way.

It’s your job to be patient with them, but that doesn’t mean you have to enable them or let them bring you down.  It’s not your job to save them, even if sometimes you think it might be.  If they want to choose misery, that’s their thing.  Let’s face it, you already know that it’s a whole hell of a lot easier to face the world on the bad days with a smile on your face.

On that note, people will always criticize your taste in clothing/decor/friends/food/reading material.  If you can name it, there’s probably someone out there who doesn’t like it.

It doesn’t matter.  They are not you.  They don’t wake up in your bed, do your job, feed your family or dream your dreams.  A polite Thank You will be enough.

You will always be painfully practical.  That’s just part of the job description when you’re the oldest child.  But since you and Marcus are both oldest children, make sure to give it a rest every once in a while and LIVE.  You’re still learning how to live a life of no regrets.  In the meantime, just keep on saying Yes to every opportunity.

Speaking of that husband of yours, do not ever lose sight of the fact that he is your person and the one human who makes you want to be a better person.  I hope you still think of him as My Patience When I Have None.

And, just like Mom always told you, make sure to treat him like he is your treasure.  Because he is.  I could write thousands of words on that topic alone, but I really don’t need to.   You already understand this in every fiber of your being.

While I’ve got your attention, let’s take a moment to confront the harsh realities of our world.  Even though you managed to zap off 60 pounds through two years of hard work, there is going to be a point where you will have to deal with the issue of baby weight.

Do not be disheartened.

Do not even think twice.

Just slam into it head-on, like the defensive line at the start of a play.  Remember how you were so thankful that you lost the weight when you did the first time around?  This is going to be exactly the same.  Get it off and put it behind you.  There will never be a Better Time.  It is non-negotiable.

Losing it probably won’t be easy and apparently your body will never be the same, but you WILL run marathons again.  Just think – plenty of people don’t even try running one until after they’ve had children, so don’t you dare lose sleep thinking that you’re behind the eight ball on that one.

Take an hour for yourself every day.  You’re a perfectionist, Type-A and a compulsive list maker.  As much as you love crossing things off of your To-Do list, that also means there’s always room to add more.  So you add more.

All the time.

Because you know you can handle it.

Which is great.  Really, it is.  But sweeping the kitchen is not going to soothe you in the same way that doing your mitts and paws, sipping a glass of wine, reading a book, or taking a nap will.

And taking care of other people because that’s what happens to be making you happy at the moment doesn’t count either.  I just KNOW you’re going to try to find loopholes in this, so please do yourself a favor and stop trying.  There aren’t any.

Last, but not least, tell your children every day that they are your most precious resource.

In those exact words.

And tell them that they’re your favorite only daughter and your favorite only son.  Be proud of them.  Show up at all of their activities and events even when they know and you know that you don’t really need you to do this anymore.

They will remember this forever.

I’ll love you forever and always,

Kat

What would you like to tell your future self?

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