Wedding Wednesday

The most important order of business: I’m craving sweet potatoes in a way that makes squirrels burying nuts in the Fall look like child’s play.

I’m not sure what nutrient those babies have in them that is obviously NOT PRESENT in every other food I’m eating right now (or my daily vitamin), but OHMIGOD they are good!

Actually, I’m willing to go so far as to say that they’re life-changing.  The best there ever was.  The finest there is.

Please send help.

Anyway.  Group pre-marital counseling is over.  Done.  Finito.  Past.  Our Wednesday nights are our own again.

Or something like that.

The one thing we were meant to accomplish before the class was over was an Interview.  With a married couple.  So we could share our findings with the group.

Compare and contrast.  That sort of thing.

When the assignment was announced, I thought of one couple immediately, but I let it simmer, because I was kind of curious to see who Marcus would suggest or pick.

When they were the first couple he suggested too, I knew we were on the right path.

So with The Universe’s blessing we picked Liz and Lee, my little brother’s godparents.  They’ve been married for 34 years and they’ve been a part of my life since I was hatched.


We really did try to set-up an interview time, but because the four of us have lives involving copious amounts of travel and play, we couldn’t actually sit-down to talk until class was over.  No big deal.

In the interim, we e-mailed the questions to them, they sent us a CliffsNotes-version back and we shared their marital revelations with the class.  While almost every other couple squirmed, explaining that they had called parents or older married siblings the day-of.

The fact that we hadn’t even met yet?  Was our little secret.  I’m not entirely sure as to where that places us on the karmic loop, but hopefully it’s closer to Cosmic Synergy than farther.

Shenanigans aside, it was far more fun (and relaxing!) to meet over a glass of wine and dinner to discuss the questions we were meant to be asking, as well as the questions we had.

The questions (1-4 were for the class, 5 and 6 were our own):

  1. What are the keys to success in your marriage?
  2. How do you settle disagreements?
  3. Looking back over the years, would you have done anything differently?
  4. Looking back over the years, what have you learned about relationships that you can pass on to us?
  5. What do you wish you would have known about marriage that no one told you ahead of time?
  6. If you had friends who ended up getting divorced, what was the cause of that?

Their most important answer?  That at the end of the day, “Life has chapters and changes are inevitable.  It’s very fulfilling to have spent our lives together and have common history.”

Chapters.  Inevitable change.  Fulfillment.  Common history.

Such a wonderful contrast to Fireworks.  Breathlessness.  Perfection.

I’m into it.

If you had to choose a go-to couple to discuss marriage with, who would you choose?

Married readers, what do you wish you would have known about your partner before you walked down the aisle?

Is anyone else craving sweet potatoes (or anything else that specific) like crazy right now?

Honestly, I  can’t remember the last time I had such a random, specific craving.  I wish I could say that I’m kidding when I tell you that on our way home from dinner tonight, I made Marcus stop by the grocery store so that I could pick up another one for tomorrow night’s dinner.



13 responses to “Wedding Wednesday

  1. If I had to talk to anyone about marriage, it would be my parents. I think they have the perfect marriage! They’re a great example.

    I get really random cravings sometimes too! Usually for squash. I’ve definitely made emergency trips for squash before!

  2. they love their sweet potatoes in Okinawa, Japan, and that is the only place I’ve ever had them. They might be different than here, but I have no way of knowing. All I do know is that Sweet Potato Ice Cream was purple and delicious.

  3. Huh, we’ve been married for almost 13 years (!) and I can not think of anything I wish I’d known before walking down the aisle…Oh, other than when he’s stressed, he sometimes has ridiculous temper tantrums about meaningless things and is completely oblivious to the fact that he’s being crazy. I can at least admit when I’m being crazy. 🙂

    Craving peanut butter M&Ms. This is a sign that I’m super-stressed at school – it’s my go-to sugar-buzz-for-cramming treat.

  4. They sound like a great couple with refreshing words of wisdom:)
    I’d pick my grandparents. They are strong but playful after 50 years.

  5. I’m not going to suggest you are craving hardcore because of anything (stress, pregnancy – whhhhaaaaat?) but I’ve been in that boat, too. Mostly salty – pickles, roast beef, buffalo wings. Those types of things. This past week, it has been chocolate.

    Regarding marital advice, from an old seasoned pro (married 9 months, LOL) – be prepared to change together. Sometimes little things, and sometimes big things. But both of us understand and agree that through our lifetime, we will change – and to be prepared and love eachother through those changes (buying a house, losing weight, having kids, changing jobs, becoming cynical, gaining a sense of humor, etc.) and to keep the open communication so we never feel like we are going through life “alone”. Hopefully you got some good advice from Lee and Liz, yes?

  6. A lot of my family loves sweet potato fries, but I’ve never been into them. They’re a pretty good thing to have cravings for.
    I would talk to my aunt and uncle. They are such a great couple, even though they seem so different at first glance.

  7. I can’t think of anything that I wish I knew before marrying Hubby. I thought I knew him as well as I ever would, and now nearly 14 years later, I couldn’t have been farther off base in that assumption. Your mentor couple is right on. Good choice.

    I am craving Diet Caffeine Free Dr. Pepper something fierce, right now. How is that for random?

  8. I have no idea who I would interview! That’s kinda worrying me. 🙂

    I have only had sweet potatoe fries before, and I only had 1 or 2. Can you believe that?! I need to give them a try. I am currently wanting honey on everything. Weird.

  9. I love your couple/counselor questions and I love their answers even more. *Their answer put into my memory for future reference*
    It seems like a worth while adventure to go through that for me and Ben as well. But I know we also have plenty of time before we’re married to squeeze it into our schedule.

    As for cravings – Beets. I don’t know what it is, but seriously I am loving that earthy, yummy and gorgeously crimson taste and look right now.

  10. I love sweet potatoes all the time. Right now I have an amazing sweet potato salad in my fridge that I can’t wait to dig into.

  11. Unfortunetely, we had no one our age who was married when we were getting hitched (still dont actually) So a lot of the things we did we had to figure out on our own. We still dont have a go to couple to talk with. I talk to my sister and my hubby talks to his brother, but we dont have an actual couple. Kinda frustrating a bit!!
    I am TOTALLY craving sweet potatoes!! Except it is super hot here, but if it wasnt I would totally make sweet tater fries right now!

  12. You and me both, lady! I have been chomping down sweet potato chips like it’s my j-o-b!

  13. I knew my husband was quite the prankster but it is only after living with him, I realized the intensity 🙂 I get random craving like these days, right now I am having none.

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