Daily Archives: 03.30.2011

Wedding Wednesday

The most important order of business: I’m craving sweet potatoes in a way that makes squirrels burying nuts in the Fall look like child’s play.

I’m not sure what nutrient those babies have in them that is obviously NOT PRESENT in every other food I’m eating right now (or my daily vitamin), but OHMIGOD they are good!

Actually, I’m willing to go so far as to say that they’re life-changing.  The best there ever was.  The finest there is.

Please send help.

Anyway.  Group pre-marital counseling is over.  Done.  Finito.  Past.  Our Wednesday nights are our own again.

Or something like that.

The one thing we were meant to accomplish before the class was over was an Interview.  With a married couple.  So we could share our findings with the group.

Compare and contrast.  That sort of thing.

When the assignment was announced, I thought of one couple immediately, but I let it simmer, because I was kind of curious to see who Marcus would suggest or pick.

When they were the first couple he suggested too, I knew we were on the right path.

So with The Universe’s blessing we picked Liz and Lee, my little brother’s godparents.  They’ve been married for 34 years and they’ve been a part of my life since I was hatched.


We really did try to set-up an interview time, but because the four of us have lives involving copious amounts of travel and play, we couldn’t actually sit-down to talk until class was over.  No big deal.

In the interim, we e-mailed the questions to them, they sent us a CliffsNotes-version back and we shared their marital revelations with the class.  While almost every other couple squirmed, explaining that they had called parents or older married siblings the day-of.

The fact that we hadn’t even met yet?  Was our little secret.  I’m not entirely sure as to where that places us on the karmic loop, but hopefully it’s closer to Cosmic Synergy than farther.

Shenanigans aside, it was far more fun (and relaxing!) to meet over a glass of wine and dinner to discuss the questions we were meant to be asking, as well as the questions we had.

The questions (1-4 were for the class, 5 and 6 were our own):

  1. What are the keys to success in your marriage?
  2. How do you settle disagreements?
  3. Looking back over the years, would you have done anything differently?
  4. Looking back over the years, what have you learned about relationships that you can pass on to us?
  5. What do you wish you would have known about marriage that no one told you ahead of time?
  6. If you had friends who ended up getting divorced, what was the cause of that?

Their most important answer?  That at the end of the day, “Life has chapters and changes are inevitable.  It’s very fulfilling to have spent our lives together and have common history.”

Chapters.  Inevitable change.  Fulfillment.  Common history.

Such a wonderful contrast to Fireworks.  Breathlessness.  Perfection.

I’m into it.

If you had to choose a go-to couple to discuss marriage with, who would you choose?

Married readers, what do you wish you would have known about your partner before you walked down the aisle?

Is anyone else craving sweet potatoes (or anything else that specific) like crazy right now?

Honestly, I  can’t remember the last time I had such a random, specific craving.  I wish I could say that I’m kidding when I tell you that on our way home from dinner tonight, I made Marcus stop by the grocery store so that I could pick up another one for tomorrow night’s dinner.